Change is unavoidable in life and business but growth is optional.
Are you striving or thriving ? There are such things as professionalism and keeping your personal life private, but there is a huge difference between striving and thriving. And that shows everywhere you go and in everything you do.
Personal growth and professional development can be many things.
We approach personal development from the perspective of social emotional skills and see them as a progressive process; Understanding Self and how the human mind works, becoming more aware of own awareness, makes it possible to influence own reactions, stress levels, disturbing thoughts etc. The ability to read what goes on in a social interaction requires that you know what springs from your own mind and how to keep that from coloring the way you hear and approach others.
Understanding Self also helps to better understand that others may have one of many logical reasons and motives for acting the way they do, and that you might be inclined to interpret it all in one way but not necessarily the right way. Think of a granny going into a forest to pick berries and running into a bear.. now think of a nature photographer seeing the same bear… Being able to consciously tune in on others and hear their messages the way they want you to, and to have compassion, are at the core of great social skills. And the so gained inner balance and social competence enhances your ability to make sound decisions based on all the relevant information available, instead of just reacting from own sub-conscious motives, and to control the human brain that by nature tends to jump into conclusions and react before thinking.
In practice, you will tell your coach only what you feel s/he need to know. The story is just an expression and a consequence of the various elements influencing us “below the surface” ; e.g. messages behind emotions, beliefs and attitudes, thoughts and reactions, needs, and hopes and fears. And they all stem from our histories, what we have learned in interactions with others and the environment. More often than not, the same elements and dynamics play up in our lives in different incidences until we understand ourselves better and can make the changes we want in own thinking, beliefs, and emotional reactions.
Making a change requires that you know what you need to work on, have sufficient support, and can tolerate some anxiety related to all changes. The human brain does not like changes even when they are good. We think about changes as a river one needs to jump over. The tough part is often the bit where you are in the air, not able to go back but not knowing if you’ll make the distance and what you will face on the other side.
Knowing what you want to develop is crucial but you don’t have to know it from the start. Actually, it usually crystallizes in the first sessions into something different but logically related to your original thought. But that is a good thing! If the TV is broken fixing the toaster in whatever multiple innovative ways won’t help. Consequently, you evaluate our progress every session. If you aren’t getting the results you want, we are probably fixing a toaster or not challenging you enough. Often toasters are more pleasant to work on but your coach’s job is to make it easier for you to work on the things that really benefit you. And to help you get results!
Personal EASEL® coaching and therapy sessions are based on your needs and questions – Self, work, work affecting home, interpersonal challenges at work and relationship conflicts, change, stress, future..
Held how and where you want – ET’s facilities, your work place or home, a cafe or a walk… by phone, e-mail, Skype etc.
When and as frequently as you want – set weekly session times or appointments within three days for sudden acute situations. One session or several.
Let us know if you want to discuss how we might help you!
Doing what you have been doing will get you more of what you have gotten already.
Often clients know what they want and need to do own work even better, make a career move, or solve some challenge. Just as often, however, people feel unhappy, or even unwell, but can’t yet decide if they should get help. If you are browsing these pages in such a situation, maybe the following questions can help you:
Even if you feel you can cope with your stressful work life, can your loved-ones? On a scale of 0 to 10, what are your stress points now and where do you expect them to be in 6 months if things continue as is?
If you think you can cope with some problems in your personal life and that they don’t affect your work performance, is it so? Calculating in months, for how long can you keep driving 130 km/h on third gear? Please, decide on some specific signs that will be your mark for getting help. (From ET or somewhere else, just do it!)
Participants to our workshop listed the following examples of important new insights:
- How to recognize own emotions and distinguish them from the emotion contagion from others in social situations.
- How enhancing emotion regulation and the awareness of the influences of “a chemical cocktail” (of an emotion) in the body are important keys to personal development.
- It is possible to learn to better regulate own emotions and reactions once you understand the process in the human brain and body.
- The ability to feel empathy and compassion towards others starts from the experience of compassion towards self.
- The importance of setting own boundaries and how to deal with “boundary violations” (conflicts) in a constructive way. Strengthening own social emotional skills to be more sensitive of other people’s boundaries when interacting with them. On the other hand, widening own understanding to not automatically take someone’s behavior as deliberate boundary violation if I haven’t expressed my boundaries clearly.
- Own responsibility in social situations. Strengthening own social emotional skills and accepting that there are two responsible parties in every interaction.
- Letting go of preconceptions and unhelpful attitudes and beliefs.
- Own behavior and attitude may be a lock but also a gate to something new.
"Mari Louhi-Lehtiö has successfully combined to each training day a strong foundation in science (social neurosciences, education, psychology etc.) that, thanks to the every-day-examples, participants are able to understand and integrate into a meaningful working framework for own work. The insights gained invariably influence peoples’ private lives, too. I warmly recommend both EASEL® as a facilitation methodology and Mari as an outstanding coach, trainer, and lecturer."
“Social emotional skills are essential in our work when we train corporate leaders, executives and teams. The trainer’s own healthy self-awareness and ability for empathy (without being swallowed by it) are key elements for success in our work. EASEL® offers us as leadership trainers a solid framework for learning and analyzing our work. I have spent a year in EASEL Facilitator training but even in just one training day to my colleagues Mari increased their understanding about human behavior in an interesting way with the perspective of social neurosciences. Mari Louhi-Lehtiö has an exceptional ability to bridge evidence-based theories and scientific knowledge to every-day situations making her trainings engaging and convincing.
Many of our corporate clients struggle with constant changes caused by markets. Their work requires flexibility and ability to change but at the same time persistence to reach the goals with selected strategies. In our own trainings we have seen how the perspectives borrowed from EASEL® have generated new insights among our corporate clients and, in turn, helped them improve their work."
When your job is to help, guide, teach, heal or lead others, ET’s programs help you do your job more professionally, more effectively, with heart and less fatigue.
EASEL®, is a method for increasing well-being and success at work and in private life through strengthening Social Emotional Skills. EASEL® benefits any work with people and should be in every interaction as a parent.
EASEL®Facilitator training program is for everyone who works with people and wants to become better at it. Our target groups are professionals whose job is to lead, teach, motivate, coach, support, counsel, serve or heal others.
If you want to be well and successful both at work and in your personal life, EASEL® helps you re-calibrate your Social Emotional Skills to better match the demands of your work and today’s world. EASEL®Facilitator training program also adds to your professional toolbox an effective facilitation methodology for experiential social emotional learning or therapy (depending on your background education)
EASEL Training’s mission is to help you stay happy, balanced, successful and creative in both your personal and professional life through helping you strengthen your Emotional Competence.
In our vision, social emotional skills are consistently strengthened as part of all education and training, personal development, and professional continuing education. Children’s social emotional skills and all-round well-being depend on the social emotional skills and balance of the adults around them.
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- Honesty and transparency